So i set the keyboard to disable caps lock completely for now with:

XKBOPTIONS="caps:none"

So if i cant swap with the meta key i am just going to leave it like this and replace the click on/off key with a standard key that the rest of the buttons use so it never gets stuck "down" which makes the number keys be f1-f10 and makes the "-_" key and the "+=" keys plus some others unuseable when the caps lock key is down. That way if i need an fkey i will hold down the caps lock key but it wont stay locked so i dont have to worry about it being stuck in that mode