@mitu thanks for the help :-)
I cannot be the only one with that problem, but so far I haven't found anyone discussing these issues. might be my stupidity ... :-D
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Dongle didn't work before, will try again now ...
I'd like to not buy another controller :-D
maybe if I install raspbian first and then add the stuff manually ...
I think I should focus on getting the controller to work and then get retropie running, since the controller is a little bit more annoying :-D
I'll reflash libreeleec some time later this week and check whether it works there, then raspbian and just add what I need to that, once the controller is working!
If I remember, I will update the post here, to at least help people in the future :-D