No luck. Bought two cables. Same thing : /
p.s. I think the full update broke something because now I can't play a game with the controller wired haha. It says xbox controller not configured, a message in the lower left screen. But I can use it in the emulator carousel GUI. Everywhere except a game.
As much as I want to play wireless, it's more my curiosity and desire to want to fix a bug and understand why the pi zero is fussy about this and not the pi 4.