So yesterday I had a weird error. I thought why don't I put the nvme mount with option exec into /etc/fstab. I did that and after that it would only boot into emergency and I couldn't recover anything. I tried adding the shell to cmdline.txt but nothing helped. So I decided to completly redo my retropie setup. After redoing everything, I tried again to build kodi with all the options and it just worked fine.
No errors nothing, it just went up to 100%. I installed it with sudo make install and it works.
:D As stupid as this seems it probably was some bad configuration which still existed from my first tries.
I want to thank you for your help, after I remounted my drive I thought what a godsent it would have took me atleast weeks to come up with this if ever. :D
So this thread can be closed now.