@clyde I try to create such a config file there with the output from jstest. All buttons are recognized, even the coin input gives feedback. It already helped to try on. Thanks very much, I get back later...
Edit: unfortunately no. My resources are very limited, I'm actually in the Philippines for holidays, building this machine for my friends bar. Brought all electronics from CH but no controller. But now time starts running out :-( glad that at least there's no power outage for days and internet is working...
Edit2: I copied the cfg of the Logitech gamepad to something like joypad.cfg, commented out most of the lines and ES doesn't ask anymore. Joystick works, most of the buttons too. Not sure if retroarch takes this config for the games now, but that will be sorted out tomorrow. Was a great help to get here, thanks again.