I ended up trading my ps4 controller with a friend that had one that came with her console. Kinda sucked because I really liked the Electric Purple color but I'd rather have a working wireless controller than one that's just a paperweight. I wonder if Sony changed something slightly with their controllers that kept it from connecting to Raspberry OS. I guess this topic can be closed now since it's technically resolved.
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